Wednesday, May 20, 2015

And They Lived Tinderly Ever After

I wrote this paper for my persuasive writing class and as part of the assignment I need to post it somewhere online and have people comment about it. So I would love your comments! What do you all think about Tinder? Did I persuade you to get one? Is Tinder ruining dating and turning it into a game that, in turn, results only in people hooking-up or is it helping people to meet each other? What do you think??? 

And They Lived Tinderly Ever After

The aroma of fresh flowers overwhelms you as you are swiping away on a warm, sunny, spring day. Swipe left for no and right for yes. Is today going to be your lucky day? Patiently waiting, you get a notification and, would you look at that, you have a match! Soon you have 2 matches, 5, 10, until you have so many new connections that you don’t know what to do. You ask yourself, can true love really be found on a dating app? Will I live Tinderly Ever After?

Tinder is a dating app that single people use to find other single people in the area. Joining Tinder is like having a starving ice cream addict jump into a pool of every flavor of ice cream. It opens up your world to a whole new group of singles that are ready to mingle. You design a profile and set the age limit and distance and then single people who are nearby will start popping up. After looking at many people’s well-crafted profiles, you have the power to decide if you want to match with them or not. But don’t you worry, the fun isn’t over yet; you only get to chat with that person if they want to match with you too. Patiently you wait to see if the captivating men of Tinder will match with you. Once the match is formed then the magic can begin. Make sure you have some maudlin pick up lines in your back pocket to use on all of these new matches of yours. 

Tinder romances and marriages are becoming more and more common. Sure, it is true that some people are looking for random hook-ups. This could be true with anyone you meet and date, but Tinder can actually be a really good way to meet new people. Dating is evolving and so we must evolve as well. It is time to get out of our old-fashioned ways and step into the new dating scene by embracing the wonderful technology that we have been blessed with. When Tinder is used with the right mindset then it can be a great way to meet single people in your area. If you are single and looking for people to date, Tinder increases dating opportunities by increasing your chances of meeting single people.

Often, people are embarrassed to admit they have Tinder. I don’t understand why people are so embarrassed of taking that extra step to reach their goals. If you are overweight, you buy a gym pass and go to the gym. If you want to read more books, you get a library card. If you are single and want to date, download Tinder! When you end up being the one in the relationship, living Tinderly Ever After, then who do you think will be laughing?

My grandma once told me that dating and marriage is all about timing and proximity. She read a book about love and how love connections form. She told me about how both people have to be in the right time and place in their life to form these love connections. She explained how proximity plays a big role in who you end up making these connections with.

 The law of attraction and research in the field of psychology explains that if you want to attract someone for love- it pays to be near them and interact with them. You must be available and visible. Make sure you cross paths, share space, and frequent the same places. To do this, I downloaded Tinder. It has helped me find people that are near me who are looking to date. It has made me visible to them so I am able to interact with them. Tinder has greatly increased the number of people I know and my opportunities for dating.

With all the technology the world has today, the proximities and boundaries of dating are getting bigger and bigger. No longer are we stuck only dating the people who live directly near us. This means that love connections don’t fall into our laps based on timing and proximity alone. With proximity expanding, and timing still being important, you now have to actively find the people who are ready to date and have relationships. We now have technology and apps to expand our world and help us with that very thing.

Now that you are convinced to actively pursue dating and join Tinder you are probably wondering where to begin. First off, your Tinder profile says a lot about what type of dating you are looking for. Keep it simple and to the point. Don’t put any suggestive pictures on your profile that makes it seem you are just looking for hook-ups. Only match with the people who are mutual friends of people you respect and look up to. For further tips that will help you avoid the people seeking hook-ups refer to this article.
http://www.bustle.com/articles/69727-how-to-find-love-on-tinder-because-swiping-right-isnt-only-for-casual-hookups

With your profile all in tune and the rules understood, it is time to start dating! Even if you never meet up with some of the matches you are chatting with, there is a high possibility you could run into them. This has happened to me a few times. I was at a friend’s apartment and some people came over to play games. One of the guys I met looked so familiar. We started a conversation because he said that I looked way familiar to him as well, but we couldn’t figure out where from. After hours of playing games and hanging out it finally clicked that we had matched and chatted on Tinder before. If it wasn’t for the familiarity that was already established then we might not even have talked and became friends that night. Tinder creates a bigger social circle and directly, or indirectly, brings people together. You never know where true love can be found. On Tinder, through a friend of a friend of a person you met on Tinder, or at the grocery store! But whatever helps you to meet and make new connections with people will help you to find potential people to date.


My social circle is constantly expanding and evolving. Tinderly Ever After is no longer just a dream, but a reality.  So you might ask, what does my future look like if I were to use Tinder? That my friend is unknown, but what I do know is that you will be able to meet many new people and increase your opportunities to find that special someone. Download Tinder today and give it a try. What’s the worst that can happen? Maybe you will be the lucky one who finds your Tinderly ever after! If you are brave and ready to delve into the Tinder world then you will be that much closer to finding your own happily ever after.

Monday, April 6, 2015

Relationship DUI

This video was shared in one of my classes and I thought it was so interesting! My professor just got back from the Utah Council on Family Relations conference held at Utah State. The big takeaway about dating from this conference was summed up in this video. So many people jump into relationships that "lock" themselves in while they are "under the influence". It is important to remember to think things through and to take things at your own pace. Everyone has a different timetable, I just know that I am going to have to know whoever I marry for quite some time! Remember that it is OK if love takes time. Not every thing in this world has to have instant gratification. I think we are so used to everything being so instant with the internet, cell phones, social media, etc. There are certain things in life that I think need to be separated from those instantaneous type attitudes and we need to learn how to take our time. This video was a great reminder to me and I hope this helps all my other single Provo peeps out there as well! #single4lyfe




Monday, March 30, 2015

Spokane with the Fam

I went to Spokane with the fam this weekend. My cute little sister had a volleyball tournament so we went to support her. Let me just brag about her for a second. My little (big) sis is 5' 11". She is 15 and she made the 18 year old Weber State University Club Team this year. She is amazing! She does all of this while keeping a smile on her face and making everyone around her so happy. I look up to my little sister so much! (literally) I was happy I was able to see her play all weekend.



Spokane was smaller than I expected it to be but it was gorgeous! Here is a picture of my dad and I standing in front of the Spokane Falls. There were tons of little falls! You could hike all over the place to look at The Falls from different angles all while getting a nice cold mist of water all over everything. My favorite was at night time when the falls were all lit up. 


Above is a video of my sis playing some volleyball. She is the outside hitter, number 10. The tournament was all weekend and girls from all over the nation came to play. I thought it was so funny how all the girls were snapchatting and tweeting at each other the whole time. You could be updated on the outcomes of the tournament instantaneously just by looking at Twitter. Honestly, twitter is confusing to me. My roommates have tried to help me get one and figure it out but I failed miserably. Anyone out there have a foolproof, Twitter for Dummies guide? 




The lingo for social media apps is so amusing to me. What is acceptable and what is not? For instance, if you get a general Snapchat from someone are you expected to Snapchat back? Obviously when you get a text message it is courteous to text that person back, but do the same rules apply to Snapchat? What about flirting over social media? I feel like a whole post could be written just on that! Then there is Instagram, if someone comments on your picture are you supposed to comment back to everyone separately? How many days after a picture was posted can you like it and still not be considered a creeper? Who even knows. Also, don't even get me started about hashtags!.... It took me forever to understand those silly things! Oh social media, the lingo and so called "rules" are so funny sometimes! I will probably never figure it out!  

Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Nobody's Perfect


Does anyone remember the good 'ol days of Hannah Montana? I may or may not have been addicted to this show. I even had Hannah Montana school supplies when I was in high school. (Just a notebook and pen guys, calm down) Everyone knew that Sami loved Hannah Montana! For a school talent show, my friend and I decided to do the Nobody's Perfect dance. It was my favorite song. We never ended up actually performing the dance in front of the school (thank goodness) but we did throw together a quick YouTube video as we were practicing one day. 


I have been thinking a lot lately. For some reason perfection, or lack thereof, has been brought up over and over again in my life recently. Through family, friends, and dating, I have realized that everyone has a story and everyone has gone through something. It is important to remember that no matter how perfect someones life seems, they actually could be the ones that need help the most. Every time this is brought up my mind goes straight to my favorite Hannah Montana jam. Nobody's Perfect. It seems silly, but this song has helped me through the hard times and helped me to have realistic perspectives. I encourage everyone to try and remember to keep an eternal perspective. We are all children of God and we are all doing our best with what we are given. Don't be so hard on others but most importantly don't be so hard on yourself. Perfection is unrealistic. Because... Nobody's Perfect! I will just let Hannah do the talking, or should I say singing? 


Isn't she great? I know. Love her. 

I found this quote from Elder Uchtdorf and I just fell in love. He is always so great at putting all the million thoughts running around in my head into one eloquent paragraph. 

God is fully aware that you are I are not perfect. Let me add, God is also fully aware that the people you think are perfect are not. And yet, we spend so much time and energy comparing ourselves to others- usually comparing our weaknesses to their strengths. As a result, we never celebrate our good efforts because they seem to be less than what someone else does. 
–Dieter F Uchtdorf

So once again, lets all remember that.... NOBODY'S PERFECT!! 

Sunday, March 22, 2015

I Don't Know About You, But I'm Feeling 22

Taylor Swift was my jam last weekend. I turned 22 this past Saturday, March 21st. It was seriously such a fabulous day! I am so blessed to have so many awesome friends! My roommates, family, and friends, really went above and beyond to make my day special.

               

First things first, I had a flag football game. I played the best I have ever played! I even got an interception. (Which calls for a selfie) It was a beautiful, sunny day and it was lots of fun to start out my birthday with some good ol' competitive flag football. 

After football, my roomies and I went to go get a pedicure! Ashleigh and Erin (my roomies) seriously were with me ALL DAY! They are the best! We had a relaxing pedicure and then we went to go get smoothies because that is my favorite food :) 

Later that night, I went to meet all of my friends at Red Robin for a birthday dinner. I was so surprised with how many people came to celebrate my birthday with me! After our tummies were all full with bottomless french fries, we went to the new Insurgent movie. Then some of us went to celebrate the final hours of my birthday at Swig after the movie. Swig put on T-Swift for me and once again, (the 50 billionth time that day) we jammed to 22! Such a great day with so many wonderful friends! I am so blessed! 



I love how the new thing to do on birthdays is for friends to post pictures of you on social media, most the time they are ugly pictures. My sister is WAY too good at this. She posted this beaut yesterday. 


Thanks Syd.... Happy birthday to me.... Kidding. She is wonderful! My birthday = Success!! xo




Sunday, March 15, 2015

Silly Sunday

Silly Sunday! Here is a little silly and a little spiritual to get you through the rest of the week. This video is priceless. I am so grateful to have prophets on the earth today! They are all such great examples and are inspired by God. I am looking forward to hearing from them at General Conference next month. It is my favorite!! :) I hope everyone has a fabulous week! (Maybe even eat some Resee's because they are yummy and the big Easter egg ones are out right now and they have the best peanut butter to chocolate ratio haha!) 


Thursday, March 12, 2015

5-year-old Presidential Expert

This video made my day a little brighter, I hope it does the same to you! :)



Isn’t this little girl just the cutest? I think I need to learn a few more facts about history and the presidents... I mean, she is 5 people! Amazing!

Here is a link so that everyone can "get to know" President Obama a little better. He is just like everyone else! Except.... he is the president.

http://www.buzzfeed.com/andrewgauthier/the-president-uses-a-selfie-stick?utm_term=.ejDyeXOkx&sub=3628089_4962236#.lqQZdeOp0